Learning how to Decrease Conflict In Your Relationship...
The most common state that couples arrive in a therapists’ office in, is being caught in a self-reinforcing negative pattern that feels like it has a life of its own. The pattern of fight and flight escalates to the point of creating great distress causing couples feel alone and hopeless. There are ways to stop the fighting in relationships. It first begins with an understanding around the source of the conflict.
The most common negative dance that couples get into is that of the Pursuer and withdrawer. The pursuer doggedly hounds their partner for connection because they long for it and fear being abandoned. The withdrawer, flees what they perceive as badgering.
One way to reduce fighting with your partner is through Emotionally Focuses Therapy for couples. The first stage of Emotionally Focused Therapy, focuses on de-escalating this negative cycle and freeing the couple to begin to dance a different dance – one of love, bonding and deep heart-to-heart communication.
Relationship communication is a skill that can be honed. You can stop arguing in relationships with couples therapy, even when trauma has occurred. While trauma recovery can be challenging, using Emotionally Focused Therapy can strengthen your relationships during the healing process.
Learn conflict resolution strategies in relationships through expert couples therapy in Denver. Contact Marler Counseling today.
